I usually start off my talks asking how many virgins there are in the room. It’s an attention getter. But it also lets me get right to the point about what the word “virgin” really means. The original definition had nothing to do with a physiological state. A virgin was one who was undefined by any human relationship. She was literally one-in-herself. She was whole, complete, intact, un-captured, self-governed. Because she was the “author” of her own experience, she had authority. That’s why virgins were often charged with the responsibility of keeping watch.
The world could use a few more virgins in this sense, right? But far from any cosmic application, I’ve been clinging to, affirming and claiming for my own those virgin qualities this past week. My exit from Guayabitos on this current book tour was precipitous. Heavy rains had blocked the highway which connects us with Puerto Vallarta, an hour and a half away in the best of conditions. By Tuesday morning, making my Thursday flight was looking pretty iffy. I also had my immigration document to collect before I could exit the country. Just after noon on Tuesday, I heard my husband say into the telephone, “One o’clock? I’ll have her there.” He’d found a way to get me out — the last seat on a panga — that’s an open fishing boat with an outboard motor.
At 1:10 I was running down the beach, into the water, following two guys who had my duffle bags full of books on their back. The thirteen other people in the boat obligingly leaned toward me, dipping the edge of the boat down where I could turn around, hoist my fanny onto the side, and fall over backward and into the boat. “Watch my laptop,” I blurted out.
So this time in Dallas has been one of discovering what I brought, what I left behind, and examining what I need in order to spend much more time in the States than what I’d planned. What was going to be a week long trip has stretched to six weeks. My mental litany has been, “I am complete, whole, intact. I include everything I need. I am un-captured by the vicissitudes of weather, Homeland Security, or commercial airline policy. I have authority. I am NOT a victim.” (Do you know American Airlines wanted $640 to change the date of return on a simple round trip ticket PVR to DFW? Do you know you can’t change the point of departure from one country to another on ANY airline ticket issued in the U.S.? Do you know it’s STILL raining back home in Mexico?)
My issues are being resolved one by one. My VISA card is a little limp (buymybooks, buymybooks), but I get to spend an overnight tryst with Larry in Puerto Vallarta this coming Monday, and I’ve met some of the most wonderful angels who have helped and guarded me on my way. I’ve also grown into a greater appreciation of the daily practical application of what one woman dubbed “re-virgination.” Reclaiming virginity. Day by day by day.
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. And I do have a few questions for you if it’s allright. Could it be just me or does it give the impression like a few of the responses appear like they are written by brain dead people? 😛 And, if you are posting at additional online social sites, I would like to follow anything fresh you have to post. Would you make a list of the complete urls of your public pages like your linkedin profile, Facebook page or twitter feed?
Ah Brigida! Are you going to tell me how to get my social media act together and encourage me to blog on a more regular basis? Hmmmm. I’m thinking about it. Not ready to buy anything right now, but actually writing again. Hey, I’ll post something today….
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Sue, thanks for this information on Vienna. I’ll get in contact with her. So good to hear from you. I’ll be back through, I know!
You going to be in San Diego area at all on your trip?? You probably know Vienna moved back to SD recently!
Would love to see you!
My hubby and I are going to Austin TX next week and we should be there 9/28 & 29 . We are buying computer printers at an auction there.
Life is an adventure and you are a wonderful character in it!
Hugs to you as you venture out on your book tour!
That’s my friend, Susan, an angel to others as well. I think the litany could also go something like this, “do it with what you’ve got, gal!” Those innate virgin qualities you so aptly described.